Before moving into the ceremony, let's make sure we understand energetic attachments and subconscious contracts.
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Most people (choose to?) live with their poison saying "well, that's just how I am".
If you are sincere about your spiritual practice, then that is simply no longer an option. You have to take responsibility for your energy body. Even if you didn't cause the issue, even if its from a past life. It's your responsibility to do the work now.
I am not telling you to cut people out of your life. What I am suggesting is that you work on yourself and your boundaries so that you can be with the other without enmeshing, or being so affected by them.
In energy terms, you can be passive, receiving, taking or consuming.
Consider the impact of the following words in terms of your energy body:
Compressed
Contracted
Suppressed
Repressed
Depressed
CEREMONY